tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3966316529291694099.post8091623628847400268..comments2023-06-14T15:23:38.668+01:00Comments on The Rambling Curl: Is it ever "ONLY" words?!mrsmanicshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09894116750061022896noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3966316529291694099.post-37011907050888860762017-05-23T15:23:37.527+01:002017-05-23T15:23:37.527+01:00Dr. Ekpen Temple Your spell worked and brought my ...Dr. Ekpen Temple Your spell worked and brought my husband back to me. You gave me support when I was feeling hopeless. I feel truly blessed to have found your email address. 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I tried to do singing videos and got a lot of hate, I couldn't tolerate it. I tried to do vlogging like you but I was still getting shot down for what I talked about (I suck at talking in front of the camera anyway) So why do bloggers like you and I feel the necessity to speak up about this stuff? Why do we moderate the comments, document the bad ones and report/block them? Because we don't want to hear garbage. It doesn't mean we're incapable of taking different opinions, but we just simply want a mature discussion where no one is name-calling and spreading hate. We don't want trolls trolling us because they may think it's funny, and most people may think it's funny but we don't. It's certainly not funny to call someone say...uh..a ret*** (I'm cutting that word out of my vocabulary permanently because it can really hurt me because I have autism) or a Nazi. I've been called a ret*** before and it hurts like hell. <br /><br /><br />You're right, I was, I just remember looking back at that girl's picture and then she put up a similar one and then I just felt now was the time to apologize once I realized what I did. I'm sorry you went through that. In fact, I think I remember reading it on one of your posts here. Sadly, most people don't seem to feel the need to apologize, especially if it's someone they don't know in person. But through another lesson did I learn that these things can be hurtful more than we realize and that apology may be necessary if you don't want to get in trouble. A couple of years ago I said something nasty to a friend because we had a disagreement. She threatened to report it if I did not apologize, so I did and told her I never meant it as an insult. Then she backed down, we stopped speaking for a whole year but then after that she contacted me, we made amends and became friends again. I think only people who have gone through a similar situation like this or yours will understand how Internet anonymity doesn't make it excusable. Again, just because you can, doesn't mean you should.<br /><br />We wish we could forget the past taunts we been through but we find a way to thrive through them, silencing haters whether we stop them from being fed by cutting them off or limiting their access (eg. moderating comments), reporting, etc. I really hope that someday the world wakes up and realizes taking out rage on some random innocent person online because you're jealous or had a bad day is not the solution. Emhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15955103477486198499noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3966316529291694099.post-52810423533301462062017-05-15T14:05:57.288+01:002017-05-15T14:05:57.288+01:00I think you're spot on; people seem to think t...I think you're spot on; people seem to think that the Internet somehow has different rules. But why should it? If we don't tolerate harassment, bullying or hate-speech in any other walk of life, why is it somehow acceptable if it's happening online? It still has consequences - the words still reach other people!<br /><br />I think you were strong to have realised that what you said was hurtful and to have apologised; I wish more people would. It broke my heart recently, when I apologised for my role in an argument that happened months ago (for the second time), but the people I apologised to STILL refused to say sorry back and failed to acknowledge their own roles in what happened. I just think it makes us better, stronger people when we can look at our own mistakes and own up to them and it's such a pity when people either can't or won't do that.<br /><br />Words can absolutely hurt and can cause devastating effects. I know I still carry around a lot of the nasty things school bullies have said to over the years. You move on from things and you get on with your life in time, but when words cut deep, you often find it very hard to forget them.mrsmanicshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09894116750061022896noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3966316529291694099.post-21380362445999203602017-05-15T00:55:35.982+01:002017-05-15T00:55:35.982+01:00I completely agree with you. Verbal attacks hurt j...I completely agree with you. Verbal attacks hurt just as much as physical ones. Most of the bullying I suffered through in elementary and high school was verbal and it always left me in tears or the urge to yell at them. The worst part is that many people fail to see how damaging it can be and they just say we need to toughen up. <br /><br />But man, if I had a dollar for how many times I have faced being attacked on every social media platform I've used since the beginning, I'd be a billionaire. I actually went through a similar situation to yours. I ranted on Twitter about something that was bothering me, and this girl proceeded to call me names, said I disgusted her, that I was delusional of a band that we both liked, and that I was a horrible person that needed to "grow the hell up" all the while I tried to be mature and tell her "It's my Twitter, don't follow if you don't like it" but no, she kept telling me what I should and shouldn't tweet and that I should get my head out of my ass. At one point I documented every incident with her just in case things got worse before blocking her for good. Only then did I learn at the same time she attacked me, were times she was dealing with her own health issues and took them out on me. She never apologized, probably because I never unblocked her. <br /><br />Then there was another time I took my anger out on someone else by saying their photo was disgusting. She and her friends got mad at me. Turns out I was sick with a cold that night and in a grumpy mood. A month later I apologized and explained that I shouldn't have done that due to being sick and miserable. She forgave me and I have not taken out my anger on anyone ever since. Lesson learned.<br /><br />I think the problem that arises here is it's the Internet and people think they can just get away with being nasty. They have no consideration for how that person might feel. Most people might shrug it off and be like "whatever" but some might be really hurt by it. A few days ago I saw an article about a girl who was playing Overwatch online, and she was sexually harassed by her teammates for 16 minutes. She reported it, recorded and uploaded it to YouTube as a means to say "hey this is NOT okay. Just because you can be nasty online because you can get away with it, doesn't mean that you SHOULD" she could have just muted them but sometimes in the long run that doesn't stop that behavior. Hell, I even told my parents about that article and they said the exact same thing like "oh sorry there's nothing you can do about it, welcome to the online gaming community" Bull. Shit. No one, repeat. NO ONE should have the right to harass people online because they feel entitled to, feel that that person shouldn't be there, or they've had a shitty day. Words do hurt and I think everyone needs to learn to consider other people's feelings before hitting the send button. You never know if it'll hurt them or not and I learned that lesson by what happened when I was sick that night.Emhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15955103477486198499noreply@blogger.com